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What Is The Evangelical “Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement”?

The stay-at-home-daughters movement encourages young girls and single women to forgo college and employment in favor of training as "keepers at home."

Illustration by Lorraine Nam


Source: Bitch Magazine, 30 November 2010. 

By Gina McGalliard.

“Daughters aren’t to be independent. They’re not to act outside the scope 
of their father. As long as they’re under the authority of their fathers, fathers have the ability to nullify or not the oaths and the vows. Daughters can’t just go out 
independently and say, ‘I’m going to marry whoever I want.’ No. The father has 
the ability to say, ‘No, I’m sorry, that has to be approved by me.’”

There’s a lot of talk in American mainstream media lately 
about the diminishing role of men—fathers, in particular. Have feminism and reproductive technology made them obsolete? 
Are breadwinning wives and career-oriented mothers emasculating them?

No such uncertainty exists in the mind of Doug Phillips, the man quoted above. The San Antonio minister is the founder of Vision Forum, a beachhead for what’s known as the Christian Patriarchy Movement, a branch of evangelical Christianity that takes beliefs about men as leaders and women as homemakers to anachronistic extremes. Vision Forum Ministries is, according to its Statements of Doctrine, “committed to affirming the historic faith of Biblical Christianity,” with special attention to the historical faith found in the book of Genesis, when God created Eve as a “helper” to Adam. According to Christian Patriarchy, marriage bonds man (the symbol of Christ) to woman (the symbol of the Church). It’s a model that situates husbands and fathers in a position of absolute power: If a woman disobeys her “master,” whether father or husband, she’s defying God. Thus, women in the Christian Patriarchy Movement aren’t just stay-at-home mothers—they’re stay-at-home daughters as well. And many of them wouldn’t have 
it any other way.

The stay-at-home-daughters movement, which is promoted by Vision Forum, encourages young girls and single women to forgo college and outside employment in favor of training as “keepers at home” until they marry. Young women pursuing their own ambitions and goals are viewed as selfish and antifamily; marriage is not a choice or one piece of a larger life plan, but the ultimate goal. Stay-at-home daughters spend their days learning “advanced homemaking” skills, such as cooking and sewing, and other skills that at one time were a necessity—knitting, crocheting, soap- and candle-making. A father is considered his daughter’s authority until he transfers control to her husband.

Multiply & Conquer

It probably won’t surprise you to learn that the CPM shares much of its philosophy with the Quiverfull movement [See “Multiply and Conquer,” Bitch no. 37], which holds that good Christians must eschew birth control—even natural family planning—in order to implement biblical principles and, in the process, outbreed unbelievers. Although the CPM has been around for the past several decades, with its roots in the founding of the Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and the teachings of religious leaders like Bill Gothard and Rousas J. Rushdoony, the stay-at-home-daughters movement seems to have gained traction in the last decade. Kathryn Joyce, author of the 2009 book Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement, estimates the CPM population to be in the low tens of thousands, but the rise of evangelical and fundamentalist Christianity over the past several decades makes it difficult to predict how large the CPM following could eventually become.

Vision Forum, for its part, is fully dedicated to turning back the clock on gender equality. Its website offers a cornucopia of sex-segregated books and products designed to conform children to rigid gender 
stereotypes starting from an early age. The All-American Boy’s Adventure Catalog shills an extensive selection of toy weapons (bow-and-arrow sets, guns, swords, and tomahawks), survival gear, and books and DVDs on war, the outdoors, and science. The Beautiful Girlhood Collection features dolls, cooking and sewing play sets, and costumes. There’s no room for doubt about the intended roles these girls will play later on in life. Indeed, the Vision Forum catalog brims with yearning for a simpler, supposedly more secure, and presumably more pious time, with a number of items relating to Western frontier living, a “Grandfather’s Classic Toys” collection, manuals on medieval chivalry, and centuries-old titles about manners and modesty.

Integral to Vision Forum’s belief about female submission is making sure women are not independent at any point in their lives, regardless of age; hence the organization’s enthusiasm for stay-at-home daughterhood. The most visible proponents of this belief are Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin, sisters and authors of the book So Much More: The Remarkable Influence of Visionary Daughters on the Kingdom of God (published by Vision Forum), and creators of the documentary film Return of the Daughters, which follows several young women staying home until marriage, and details how they spend their time serving their fathers. One woman, Melissa Keen, 25, helps put on Vision Forum’s annual Father-Daughter Retreat, an event that’s described on Vision Forum’s website in terms that are, in a word, discomfiting. (“He leads her, woos her, and wins her with a tenderness and affection unique to the bonds of father and daughter.”) Another, 23-year-old Katie Valenti, enthuses that her father “is the greatest man in my life. I believe that helping my father in his business is a better use of my youth and is helping prepare me to be a better helpmeet for my future husband, rather than indulging in selfishness and pursuing my own success and selfish ambitions.” (A video of Valenti’s 2009 wedding to Phillip Bradrick shows her father announcing into a microphone that he is “transferring my authority to you, Phillip.”)

In So Much More, the Botkin sisters claim women were much happier before being legally considered men’s equals, although, unsurprisingly, they reference no studies, scholarship, or evidence for this. They do, however, quote extensively from girls described as “21st-century heroines of the faith,” or “the young heroines of the underground feminist resistance 
movement,” who claim following submission teachings changed their lives. A stay-at-home daughter named Sarah, for instance, aspired to be an attorney before realizing that her career ambitions displeased God; Fiona left home for college at 18, only to return five years later having experienced much “grief and depression.”

Many of the Botkins’ fellow believers have taken to the web to extoll the virtues of the stay-at-home- daughter life, spreading their archaic views via the most modern technology. On stayathomedaughters.com, which recently ceased operating, Courtney, one of the authors of the website’s blog, describes herself as “learning to run and care for a home while under the training of my dear parents.” The section “What We Believe” states that “Stay-at-home daughters are defying cultural standards by purposing to fulfill their role at home, with their family, and under their father’s roof and authority until marriage. We are anti-feminism, and we are counter-cultural.”

Another blog, Ah the Life, is written by “Miss Kelly and Miss Andrea,” who list among their interests “homemaking, theology, hospitality, and femininity.” Their favorite movies include Return of the Daughtersand The Monstrous Regiment of Women, the latter a film that inveighs against feminism via soundbites from, among others, Phyllis Schlafly. (On Hillary Clinton: “She’s angry about a lot of things.”) And the blog Joyfully at Home was until recently maintained by Jasmine Baucham, daughter of preacher Voddie Baucham, whose 2009 patriarchy primer, What He Must Be If He Wants to Marry My Daughter, has chapters titled “He Must Be Prepared to Lead” and “Don’t Send a Woman Out to Do a Man’s Job.” Jasmine, who was featured in Return of the Daughters, wrote on her blog that she “chose to forgo the typical college experience so that I could live under the discipleship of my parents until marriage,” but her bio nevertheless notes that she is completing a degree in English literature.

The number of these blogs and their followers may be surprising to mainstream women, who would likely find the tenets the bloggers live by disturbingly retrograde, if not just plain disturbing. For instance, stay-at-home daughterhood means, among other things, subsuming one’s own identity into the family unit. The Botkin sisters write in So Much More that loving your parents means agreeing with all their opinions. “When your parents have your heart you will truly ‘delight in their ways,’” write the sisters in one blog post. “You will love what they love, hate what they hate, and desire their approval and company and even ‘think thoughts after them.’”

The Botkin sisters aim to validate living a life of confinement with staunch, if unfounded, opinions and beliefs regarding college. “College campuses have become dangerous places of anxiety, wasted years, mental defilement and moral derangement,” they write. Although neither of the sisters has attended college, they also claim universities are hotbeds of Marxism that forbid a free exchange of ideas and seek to indoctrinate students in leftist thinking. Elsewhere, they quote a document from the pro-patriarchy website Fathers for Life that states that the “prime purposes of feminism are to establish a lesbian-socialist republic and to dismantle the family unit,” echoing Pat Robertson’s notorious statement that feminism is a “socialist, anti-family political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism, and become lesbians.”

Learning critical thinking and immersion in a diversity of viewpoints and opinions—a chief goal of the college experience—seems to be what the Botkin sisters truly fear. Well, that and Satan—the sisters use the age-old image of women as helpless to resist temptation as another argument against a college education: “Recall that Satan targeted a woman first, too. God’s enemies have recognized that women are not only the weaker vessels, and consequently more easily led, but they are incredibly influential over their husbands (think of Eve again) and children, and they make excellent and loyal helpers,” claim the sisters [italics theirs]. The story of one misled college attendee, the providentially named Evangeline, is instructive. A homeschool graduate attending a Christian college away from home, Evangeline recalls, “I will never forget the night I sat on my bed reading [So Much More] until 4 in the morning, weeping over it.” She continues, “My heart had ached for a protected mission, a biblically sound mission, an ancient mission. And here it was! What joy! What relief! I was not designed to be an independent woman, but rather a part of a man’s life, a helper.”

But not all stay-at-home daughters accept their lot so unquestioningly. A young New Zealander named Genevieve, profiled on the Botkin sisters’ blog, decided to live at home until marriage after trading in her dreams of becoming her country’s first female prime minister for ambitions to become a Christian homeschooling wife and mother. Now the author of the Isaacharican Daughters newsletter, Genevieve exemplifies how young women in this lifestyle are encouraged to subsume their own thoughts and identities into those of whichever male figure in their lives currently acts as the authority. In writing about the process of swapping her father’s “vision” for her new husband’s, she notes that a woman having independent thoughts is evidence of Satan gumming up the works.

My loyalties have had to undergo a change. I was used to thinking Dad knew best. Now I needed to learn to think that Pete knows best. I used to do things and invest my time in projects according to what I knew Dad would want me to do. Now I needed to be guided by what Pete wanted me to do. When faced with a problem or option I couldn’t think “What would Dad have done in this situation?” Now I had to think “What would Pete do in this situation?” These were exciting times and difficult as during this state of flux—learning to replace one man’s vision with another—the devil would come around and say, “But what about what you want? What about what you think?” 
[Italics hers.]

Genevieve’s words are worth noting because most stay-at-home daughters can’t truly be said to have chosen this lifestyle—they are often brought up in homes where feminism, college, and a woman’s independent choices are vilified, and they rarely interact with those who think differently. One has to wonder if Genevieve, with her childhood dreams of national politics, bought into the myth that feminism is antimotherhood and antifamily, and thus feels she must choose between having a family and her own personhood, something most would consider a false choice.

Although submitting to either your father’s or your husband’s authority may seem like perpetual childhood—or indentured servitude—to modern, first-world women who value their ability to do things like vote, go on dates, and determine the course of their lives, the Botkin sisters have a different take. “The sign of our maturity and our adulthood is when we willingly submit ourselves to God-given authority and therefore to God Himself,” they write in one blog post. “This is a struggle, and it requires strength, wisdom, responsibility and spiritual maturity.” And though one presumes these women’s enthusiasm for submission means they come from safe, loving, and abuse-free homes, there are potentially chilling consequences to the spread of their beliefs to those who may not be 
so lucky.

Furthermore, the stay-at-home-daughter movement holds that girls are only ready to marry when they’ve completely tamed individualistic traits—when, as the Botkins put it, they’ve learned to “submit to an imperfect man’s ‘whims’ as well as his heavy requirements. To order our lives around another person. To esteem and reverence [sic] and adore a man whose faults we can see clearly every day.” Fathers are never to be criticized or even teased: “When you speak of him to others, you shouldn’t talk about his mistakes, but of the good things he’s done. When you speak of him,
 instead of criticizing and nagging him for his faults, you should tell him how much you admire his strengths,” say the Botkins. Stay-at-home daughter Ruth says she honors her father by finding out his favorite colors and wearing them; Kelly says she finds that her father’s convictions “are becoming my convictions, his passions my passions.” Although it’s likely that many women would find such an existence frustrating and unhappy, if not completely infantilizing, within the context of the Christian Patriarchy Movement it’s not difficult to see the appeal. After all, women raised in the CPM are brought up to believe that the world outside their community is sin-filled, godless, and dangerous; opting for stay-at-home daughterhood represents a lifetime of safety.

Still, they’re not safe from everything. Although the Botkins and their stay-at-home sisterhood believe that women have a duty to be obedient, if men fail in their endeavors—their work, their marriages, their faith—guess who’s responsible? “If our men aren’t successful, it largely means that their women have not made them successful. They need our help,” the Botkins write. Wives, claim the Botkin sisters, have the ability to “win” over their husbands with respectful and submissive behavior, for when the husbands observe this, they will become “ashamed and repentant.” (The sisters are strangely silent on what to do if this isn’t effective.) And daughters have the same responsibility: “Before you can accuse your father of being unprotective, ask yourself: ‘Do you make it clear to him that you are a woman of virtue, worthy of his special protection? If your behavior was more gentle, feminine, respectful and lovely would he be more inclined to be protective of you?’” Relationships with mothers, by contrast, get little consideration within the literature and blogs of the stay-at-home-daughters movement. Mother-daughter dynamics are mentioned in the Botkins’ book and film only in the context of readers becoming future mothers.

The stay-at-home-daughters movement has inevitably inspired controversy and dissent, much of it among dedicated Christians who consider the movement to be a dire misconstruction of their religion. According to Cindy Kunsman, a survivor of what she terms “spiritual abuse” and the author of the blog Under Much Grace, stay-at-home daughters who have exited the lifestyle are—despite what the rest of us might presume—usually well prepared academically, but lack certain key skills for success in life. “Those young women who received excellent training have an easier time acquiring job skills when pursuing college and healthcare training, as many of them have done quite successfully,” said Kunsman in an interview. “However, because [these young women] were required to abdicate all significant problem-solving to another agent while in their families of origin, they lack skill and practice in critical thinking and planning… They must work to build integrity, self-reliance, autonomy, and trust in themselves, which they were taught to derive from the identity of the family.”

One of the most outspoken counter-CPM blogs is Quivering Daughters—the name a play on the phrase “Quiverfull”—authored by Hillary McFarland. “Increasing numbers of women in their late twenties and thirties remain ‘safely’ at home, patiently waiting for husbands to find them,” writes McFarland in her book Quivering Daughters: Hope and Healing for the Daughters of Patriarchy. “As unmarried adult daughters continue to perfect the art of homemaking, help to mother and school young siblings, and learn to be a godly helpmeet, many through spiritual discipline strain to cauterize wounds made tender with disappointment.”

Despite the assertion of stay-at-home daughters that they are “protected” (albeit in a country where they have every legal right to walk away from their families and churches), it’s difficult not to view them as being extremely vulnerable. After all, men who grow up 
believing that women were created to serve their whims are generally the ones who are just as likely to abuse the women they see as “theirs” as to protect them from others.

Such sexist views of women’s roles are certainly not limited to the Christian Patriarchy Movement. But unlike other extremely conservative religious groups such as the Amish or fundamentalist Mormon polygamists, which are typically closed off from the rest of society, the stay-at-home-daughters movement and the CPM might be capable of seeping into the already-booming populations of evangelical and fundamentalist churches and Christian homeschoolers, which already advocate a less-rigorous version of female 
submission. In this sense, stay-at-home daughters might feel that they are the most pure, and most righteous, of Christians.

In a complex world where women have more choices than ever, perhaps the appeal of this lifestyle for both men and women is perpetual female childhood. Men make all decisions and are never told they are wrong, always getting their way, while women are free of any decision-making: a markedly different, albeit less complicated relationship than one between two equals. Only time will tell how far this new movement will spread. In the meantime, those of us who were lucky enough to have fathers who delighted in our accomplishments and growth as individuals—rather than believing our existence was to serve their own needs—should count our blessings.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Gina McGalliard is a San Diego–based freelance writer whose work has appeared in @UCSD, Sport Diver, Conscious Dancer, Dance Studio Life, San Diego City Beat, San Diego Family Magazine, and the San Diego Union Tribune. She would like to give a shout-out to her feisty Italian grandmother, who spent the 1970s and ’80s breaking down barriers for women, for raising her to be a good feminist, and introducing her at a young age to the writings of Gloria Steinem.

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21 Responses to What Is The Evangelical “Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement”?

  1. Anon Y. Mous Reply

    March 18, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Please check your facts, New Zealand has already had a woman Prime Minister. Helen Clark served three terms as PM from 1999 to 2008. If the young lady you described didn't know that, I would find it even more disturbing.

    • Anon Y. Mous Reply

      March 18, 2012 at 4:57 pm

      I just checked http://www.issacharian.com

      There is something seriously wrong with the Genevieve story,

      She is first introduced as "Home educated for all her 27 years of life," which means she was born in either 1984 or 1985.

      Then in the interview
      "On one trip to the USA (back in 2001) the Lord taught me many things, the end result of which was a new direction and vision in my life…Where once I was a Legal Executive with aspirations to be the first woman Prime Minister in New Zealand , I was now at home, helping my father with his ministry to home educators

      2001 – 1984 = 17….. A 17 year old Legal Executive !? Completely unaware NZ already had had a female Prime Minister for 2 years !?

      • Anon Y. Mous Reply

        March 18, 2012 at 5:23 pm

        My mistake, Jenny Shipley served as the PM of NZ from 1997 to 1999 immediately followed by Helen Clark.

        So she was a 17 year old Legal Executive, completely unaware NZ was 2 years into the first term of its second female Prime Minister.

  2. Liz Reply

    March 19, 2012 at 2:41 pm

    Whatever floats their boat….more jobs for the rest of us…..

  3. roz Reply

    April 20, 2012 at 3:25 pm

    Not that unusual even. My grandmothers at the turn of the 20th century were married off by their struggling parents in rural Texas when they were 12 and 13 respectively to men in their 40s because they couldn't afford to feed all their kids. They both died in their 20s, one from septicemia from an infected tooth and another one after childbirth. They both left several children and both my grandfathers went on to marry other pubescent rural girls whose parents were trying to rid themselves of extra baggage. Females were disposable in many places in America back then.

  4. frankiethemc Reply

    April 20, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    This is misguided on many levels. I can understand the attaction of having women run their households, but the reasons why most married women entered the workforce in the first place was to prevent their households from slipping into poverty. How do you spell "Income gap"? Granted, in retrospect, it might have been wiser to endure a lower living standard for a higher quality of spiritual and emotional life, but that choice is excrutiatingly difficult. (No good "Christian" would challenge the free market, even though Christ did that in Herod's Temple.)

    St. Thomas More would have had opinions on keeping his daughters illiterate and confined to the bedroom and kitchen. More had a large household filled with women (his wife, his daughters, a step-daughter, and wards). He educated those women. (More's intellectual friends used to think it a riot to hear women argue philosophy at meals.)

  5. Betty in VA Reply

    April 20, 2012 at 6:41 pm

    Am I the only one who is thinking of the enormous risk of incest in all this?

    Also, the next logical step to this total submission is polygyny. After all, Abraham did it.

    • Jennifer Reply

      November 21, 2012 at 3:43 am

      I really don't care about polygamy, at all. It's not inherently submissive, and is the best choice for some polyamorous people. Saying something like that is pretty ignorant to those of us that would benefit in a polygamous relationship (I would if society was more open to it, but my guy is very 1+1 and not very open to "sharing", but I also love this woman who was my childhood friend. I've had to cut her out of my life because of this kind of ignorance.)

  6. watergirl Reply

    April 20, 2012 at 8:22 pm

    Glad my father taught me to think for myself, be independent, and was dead set on my getting a college education. He always said he wanted the Mother of his grandchildren to be highly educated. He was fine if I chose to stay at home after that. But, he also allowed me to have self determination. I thank the good Lord he was my father!

  7. Wilma Reply

    April 20, 2012 at 11:30 pm

    "…with special attention to the historical faith found in the book of Genesis, when God created Eve as a “helper” to Adam. "

    According to the version (I believe was inserted by an early ruler) in Chapter 2:7-25 of Genesis.

    Is the version of creation in Chapter 1:26-31 book of Genesis ever discussed in Bible Study groups, or in churchs, is it ever mentioned? I never knew the two versions in my church years.

    • Cheryel Lemley-McRoy Reply

      October 1, 2012 at 7:00 pm

      In regards to the translation of "helper", please see my note of 10-01-2012.

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  9. Geek Goddess Reply

    September 19, 2012 at 11:12 pm

    This makes me queasy.

    Hope that they are be ER widowed or divorced and suddenly have to prepare for real life.

  10. skwerllee Reply

    September 29, 2012 at 2:52 pm

    This is tangential, but I just want to remind people that all homeschoolers are not Christian homeschoolers. And there are even quite a few Christian homeschoolers who are not homeschooling for religious reasons. Please do not read articles such as this one and lump us all together. Evangelicals are scary.

    Sincerely, an atheist-feminist-homeschooling-mom-with-a-career

  11. Lucy Reply

    September 30, 2012 at 8:21 pm

    Scariest part: breeding rate compared to the mainstream.

  12. Cheryel Lemley-McRoy Reply

    October 1, 2012 at 6:55 pm

    This is what happens when people build a movement on what the English Bible says, and know nothing of the idioms, euphemisms, historical context, and cultural meaning of Scripture. In Genesis 2: 18, the word translated as "helper" is "ezar". This is not a helper as an assistant or servant, but a Hebrew military term for a soldier who comes to the aid of a fellow soldier surrounded by enemy in battle. The rescuing soldier is not lower or higher in rank, but a fellow soldier. One of the names of God is El-eazor, our helper. God is certainly not lower in rank to us. Jesus set an example for us by the way he treated women. He did not relate to them as other men of His time. The first person sent with the Gospel was the woman at the well. The first people He appeared to after resurrection were women. The disciples and other men who wrote the New Testament scripture were too entrenched in their culture to understand this. Christian feminists need to speak out on this subject before too many women are trapped in misinformation.

    • Mykelbarber Reply

      January 9, 2013 at 6:00 pm

      Doesn't matter what your book of myths relates, it's got absolutely ZERO to do with real life, people's rights under the law, and modern society.

  13. Mykelbarber Reply

    January 9, 2013 at 5:58 pm

    Another way to rot your brain brought to you by fundamentalist religitards.

  14. Katie Botkin Reply

    January 20, 2013 at 3:05 am

    I am curious to see how this plays out in the long-term. Keeping yourself surrounded by people who only echo this mindset back to you makes it difficult to see its obvious logical failings. But at some point, it might occur to them, for example, that their form of patriarchy runs on a severe double standard. These fathers in question are rarely, if ever, passionate about exactly the same things their own fathers were. In fact, they frequently hold opposing views to their more mainstream fathers. If that's OK because they have chosen a more "godly" path, then clearly, choosing a path different than your father's isn't bad per se. The Botkin sisters are my first cousins, so I can attest to the fact that the extended family dynamics in these situations could possibly make things interesting.

    • Lexie Reply

      January 22, 2013 at 6:47 pm

      Katie how come Geoff hasn't married off Ana Sofia or Elizabeth by now wouldn't you think his whole stay at home and get into a courtship model he is shilling would be a failure by now to some?

  15. Therese Shechter Reply

    July 25, 2013 at 11:54 pm

    I remember reading this when it was originally published in Bitch Magazine a few years ago, and it has lost none of its power. Great to introduce it to a new group of readers so they too can be horrified by this movement.

    I was pleased to see the trailer for my now completed film ‘How to Lose Your Virginity’ embedded into the story, but with no context or caption, I fear it doesn’t register as the feminist sex-positive critique of this philosophy that it is. Anyone who wants more info and to watch a new version of the trailer can go to our site http://virginitymovie.com.

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